One of the most difficult things to do is to judge yourself openly
It’s easy to judge others without hesitation. We judge appearances, gestures, work, food other people eat, and so on. But when it comes down to looking into the mirror we fall short. It’s easy to praise your mistakes and hide them under the wording, and I quote, “Mistake.” And that’s how you can convince yourself that the things you’re addicted to are okay when they’re not.
If you want to be emotionally free from guilt and things which wear you down… periodic self assessments help. You pull out a mental sheet of paper, and you write down all the things you don’t want to say out loud. You assess where you’re going wrong. Why it’s going wrong, and how you can fix it.
- You then move forward to the next page, and you write down the reasons which got you there.
- You look for all possible reasons, and you write them down in a raw way.
- You don’t hold back! Because only you will know about your mental sheet of paper. Next! You move onto page 3, and you find solutions.
For example,
1. Do I tell someone about it?
2. Do I fix it by myself?
3. Will fixing it by myself Work?
4. Where can I go?
5. Who can I trust?
The list can be as long as your arm; as long as it’s done, you’re doing great. Please note that it’s not a sign of weakness acknowledging your mistakes. Why would it be? Why wouldn’t you fix your mistakes to better live your life? Most people who block their issues fail. But when you challenge yourself you stand a better chance.
Why honest self assessments are good
They work because you’re a tool. Tools function better when used correctly. Take the wrong tool for a job and you’ll have to work harder than necessary to complete a task. You can only fix the issue by working on the problem. And you work on the problem by pinpointing it out. Does this make sense?
So, work on yourself. Use the mental sheet at your disposal to plan a course of action. It only works if you’re truthful to yourself. At least with this task you cannot blame anyone if you do nothing about it. You don’t need outside help to be truthful to yourself. We all know our issues, we just don’t admit them. Once you admit them you’ll find it easy to stop, or ask for help, or move on to the next step of letting them go.
Conclusion
Do you have something bothering you? It can be anything. Use the self assessment suggestion to ask yourself questions. Difficult as some of the questions may be… it gets easier down the road as you begin to complete the tasks.
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