Why did I think that generational curses affect one race?

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Here are some thoughts about inherited trauma and how to overcome it 

Does old pain affect your life? Why? I watched the UFC 316 women’s Bantamweight promotional video between Julianna Pena and Kayla Harrison, which enlightened me. In the promo, Kayla Harrison talks about working hard to overcome generational (cycles) curses. To be honest, I’ve only heard black people use the word to describe inherited trauma.

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When I heard Kayla mention generational curses, it made me realise that a lot of people are struggling. Of course, a lot of people struggle, though, to describe it like how I describe inherited pain draws me closer to you. If this wasn’t enough for my weekend’s enlightenment. To top it off, on Sunday, I watched the movie Straw by Tyler Perry starring Taraji P. Henson. It depicts how old pain, mixed with new pain, can get out of hand if it’s not managed.

How my weekends learning experience grew my emotional intelligence

After I watched Kayla’s promo, I knew this was my inspiration for my weekly blog post, and I had to write about it. Usually, the UFC promos are energizing building up to the fight. This one was different. Kayla’s clip explaining how she got to take care of her sister’s children touched me. To go from self-sustaining thoughts to one day thinking about what two kids will eat for supper is challenging. But as a responsible person, the challenge was engaged.

Saturday night, Kayla Harrison won the women’s Bantamweight Title. This impressed me because when you work hard to overcome other people’s past mistakes, it takes double the effort. For example, I grew up in a single parent home. My mom is my rock, and she has done an incredible job raising me. My father passed away when I was young, and my mom fought hard to keep the ball rolling.

With everything she had to endure. It’s only now as I’m older I see and appreciate her efforts. It took her having to fight generational curses to break a lot of what I did not have to live through as a child. This is the Kayla Harrison game. Do better than what you had to go through for the next person to succeed. In emotional intelligence, my words are stepping stones. Use them to change your journey, which will benefit your life. We’re related emotionally. We all go through challenging journeys, but in the end, the goal is to live a happy life.

Why did I think that generational curses affect one race?

Kayla Harrison is fighting like us, but on the other hand, the movie Straw which stars Taraji P. Henson showed me how one’s mindset is key to mental growth. Life may fight back in a negative way… this will be tough, but if you don’t ask for help. Help will not come. My take on Straw is that I feel her pain. I’ve seen it many times, but I’ve also seen people find ways to get help when times are hard. There’s always someone out there somewhere who is willing to help. Raise your hand, and you will find a stepping stone.

Conclusion

Why did I think that generational curses affect one race? What Kayla Harrison and the movie Straw taught me is that we’re all emotionally related. We all go through difficult challenges, but if you do not work on yourself, you’ll find it hard to get out of inherited trauma. Get the help you need because help is always there somewhere.

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  • Clive Ngwenya

    Clive Ngwenya is a visionary advocate for holistic well-being, dedicated to empowering individuals to enhance their physical, mental, and emotional health. As the founder of this transformative website, Clive’s mission is to provide accessible resources and support for people on their journey towards improved well-being.

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