Sometimes, life stops you abruptly, violently, and intentionally.
I’ve planned my life for a long time. I knew my life had meaning, and soon after, my dream of helping people developed. Throughout my pursuit of it, I’ve gone through ups and downs which are too many to count. I’ve gotten used to setbacks. I’ve learned from them, cried because of them, and failed to achieve certain goals.
What I’ve learned is that life takes you on a journey of self-discovery, which either builds people who are willing to learn or breaks those with weak hearts and minds. If you don’t learn how to navigate your emotions you will fail. I’m glad that my heart has always been willing to listen to advice, and that’s how I managed to get over bad experiences. I may not have understood why I should stop doing something, but if someone told me to stop, I usually did for sometime. And during that pause it enlightened me, and showed me better ways to do things.
Why ghosting people is good for your mental well-being
Being intentional is very important. Ghosting someone will look bad if you’re the person it’s happening to. But for your well-being. If you want to better your life, depriving yourself of certain things, friends, and groups will help you. I’ve said no many times even if it left me sad, but I’m glad I did. It’s helped me focus and achieve my goals.
Sometimes, life stops you abruptly, violently, or intentionally. A few weeks ago I was consumed with getting the emotional intelligence developer website to the next level. I want it to grow and help as many people as possible. This led me to fumble the ball. My attention was focused, but my actions weren’t.
My mind was all over the place, asking myself why are people not liking, subscribing, or commenting more? I’m not the only writer on the platform which upset me that my fellow contributors weren’t receiving the attention they deserve. This consumed my thoughts, and though I have a peaceful mindset, a dark cloud began to grow.
Why negative thoughts affect your mind and how to view things differently
Even when my mind was racing my routine and demeanor did not change. Then came the abrupt stop in my life. I remember coming home and finding out that there was a power surge in our neighborhood. My wifi, and household adapters blew. I was back in the stone ages. Life decided it’s time for an abrupt halt, and for two days I was offline waiting for my insurance company to fix the adapters.
It’s as if life ghosted me. Prevented me from spiraling, and it helped me. When I got home I could’ve taken the situation differently. It could’ve messed me up. Made me worry, and made me very angry. But if I preach what I don’t live I’d be a charlatan. So I took the power surge in an empathetic way. While my neighbor was livid, and the neighborhood WhatsApp group boiling, my emotional well-being kicked in.
It wasn’t a good feeling because some things are insured, and a lot aren’t. But what can you do about the unforeseeable power surge in the end? Find solutions and move on. The irony of this sudden event is that instead of ghosting people… it’s life introducing the power surge which ghosted me from my normal routine, and helped me reset my mind. I took the power surge as a glass half full. The power surge helped in resetting my mind.
Conclusion
If you need to ghost people, groups, or bad behavior, do it. Don’t fail because you knew it was the right thing to do and you didn’t do it. If life throws a curve-ball, open your mind and see the glass half full. Maybe you needed it in order to learn and stop doing something that is negatively affecting you.
