How am I still standing when everything feels like it’s crumbling?

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Do you get anxiety about seeing the finish line but something is holding you back?

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Did you know that challenges become harder near the end? When what you used to see in your mind begins to materialize. You must remember that every step towards success has a price. When one part blossoms other challenges appear. It’s draining because the hard work never stops, and I understand how you feel when you can’t catch a break, because we’ve all been there.

Why feeling depressed can affect your goals

Did you know that you can be sad and still be productive? Some people manage to use depression to fuel their hearts. Then there are those who sink down deep holes we cannot reach, because depression is very dangerous if not treated. Then there’s depression which pushes people off the road. Instead of using it to motivate you, you go off course and end up neither here or there. Just lost and confused. We’ve all been there… At one stage in our lives we’ve all had to fend off challenges which tried to block us.

  • Everything feels like it’s crumbling around me

There’s ways to overcome bad periods in your life. It’s good when you’re knowledgeable about gloomy days. But if you’re not prepared, because you can prepare for it. You will fail. Gloomy days are common like productive periods in your life. You just have to be mentally ready for them, such that when they come, you manage to stay on course and not find yourself lost.

How frustrating is it to work hard and still feel like you’re not succeeding?

Doubt is a poisonous substance. If you allow it to smear itself all over you, what it desires you will eventually become. Don’t allow doubt to tell you what to do. If it says nothing good is happening in your life, don’t believe it. If it says, it’s been too long, success is not coming, don’t believe it. Beware that things always happen… gloomy days are common but take it on the chin and keep on keeping on.

I love this saying. Keep on keeping on… it’s one of my motivational chants when things aren’t going my way. Believe in yourself and follow this simple rule. You must work hard, do what you love, and never give up when everything feels like it’s crumbling around you. As long as you focus, and you focus some more, some days may be challenging but you won’t give up. 

How am I still standing when everything feels like it’s crumbling?

It’s common to have doubts, and while some setbacks develop your emotional intelligence. As long as you continue to learn, make mistakes, and grow, you’ll achieve success. This is why I like how educational institutions honor people regardless of not following common steps to succeed.

I like that honorary degrees and certification is given to outsiders. We may not have followed common steps but the hard work we put in deserves recognition. You’re doing the work. You may not see it from time to time, but one step forward leads to success.

Conclusion

Learning, growing, and adapting leads to success. Do what you love and never give up. So, when you’re feeling doubtful or lost. Remember to always keep on keeping on.

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  • Clive Ngwenya

    Clive Ngwenya is a visionary advocate for holistic well-being, dedicated to empowering individuals to enhance their physical, mental, and emotional health. As the founder of this transformative website, Clive’s mission is to provide accessible resources and support for people on their journey towards improved well-being.

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