So what does it mean to have this disorder?
Clevelandclinic.org describes (DPD) as, “a type of anxious personality disorder. People with DPD often feel helpless, submissive or incapable of taking care of themselves.”
Are your afraid of making decisions in a group? Do you wait for another person to choose the route that you will take? Do you feel like your suggestions will not be considered if you suggest them? How many times were you correct, but you never spoke up?
When you Google things you find answers which identify with what you’re feeling. It’s not a coincidence because your data is not private. The results you get can be emotionally targeted. And that’s my opinion. It’s key to understand that second opinions matter or you can fall victim to every search engine result you find. Merely reading that DPD has similar behavioral patterns like you doesn’t mean you have this disorder. No.
Feeling helpless is normal until you do something about it. Take action and speak up when you have a concern, suggestion, or answer. If life makes you feel like giving up that’s the time it needs you to work harder.
Do you feel that you’re submissive? Ask yourself why… learn how to be confident. In some cases your behavior can be traced. So don’t diagnose yourself as someone who has DPD because it may not be true.
But what if I have a dependent personality disorder?
Some people genuinely cannot take care of themselves; but as long as you can do something about it — develop yourself. Don’t be idle it takes hardwork and determination to achieve a goal. Prove to yourself that you can accomplish anything and you will grow into a better version of yourself.
It’s okay to be sick. I have my own problems, just like a lot of people, but I deal with them. So get help if you have a disorder. Go to a place which can help you heal. Follow the guidance given by doctors. Surround yourself, where possible, with people who understand your issue.
You’re not alone… a lot of people go through what you’re going through and they get treatment for it. You are not the first person to be sick nor the last. I have my own issues but I deal with them. No one is perfect we all need help somewhere.
If I look back at my life DPD sounds familiar… if I had known about it I would have identified with it. But I see now that what I needed was confidence building, and it wasn’t DPD.
I knew I was confused and I needed help understanding my behavior. So second opinions matter! Do your homework. The best advice I can give you is to ask for help. DPD is a disorder like many out there. You can develop and become a better version of yourself when you ask for help.
The most important thing you can do for yourself is to be around people who understand what you’re going through. Who can relate and not judge. People who can help you, give honest advice, and opinions. It’s important to get help because that’s the only way you can get better.