What is Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is:

1. “A form of intimidation or psychological abuse, sometimes called Ambient Abuse where false information is presented to the victim, making them doubt their own memory, perception and quite often, their sanity.” Link 

2. “Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which a person or group causes someone to question their own sanity, memories, or perception of reality. People who experience gaslighting may feel confused, anxious, or as though they cannot trust themselves.” Link 

Isn’t this so true… we go through a lot in life not knowing how some of our behavior is man-made. Someone has corrupted your emotions into making you believe you’re not worth it.

You feel abandoned. Guilt-ridden. Your life awaits the next bad comment which you expect to come and when it comes you feed off of it and you believe it.

Gaslighting is real. Harsh people are out there, sometimes close to you. But don’t allow them to hurt you. Don’t allow them to corrupt you. Your heart can withstand it. Your mind can fight it. You are a good soul. Believe in yourself.

It takes understanding how people behave out there. People do things to bring you down, to overtake you, to try and have a hold over you. But when you read messages like this one, when you fight and take back your sanity knowing that what is being said about you is a lie. Because it is a lie. Your growth as a person will show.

You are more than good. You are caring and empowered. Your Worth is Golden. Your happiness is important and you have to enjoy it. Gaslighting is real. People will say things to destroy your character. But don’t fight them! They can say whatever they want and that’s okay. Because you know yourself and the truth will always prevail.

Nothing can stop an open minded person. Nothing can stop an emotionally intelligent person. Because he or she understands that the world is shared by everyone who has a good heart and who has a bad heart. An emotionally intelligent person understands that bad words and hatred will be directed against them — but these things will not faze them. These things you are meant to beat.

Live your life and carry on the journey you have set for yourself. If you think at this stage that this is the only gaslighting you will come across saddle up because as long as you empower yourself you will be tested. And sometimes it’s the people you love who gaslight you the most — and that’s okay.

•Live your life
•Never gaslight them back

An emotionally intelligent person has dignity and respect for all. Expect the unexpected, but expect it because you have learned that such people are wired in a bad way and you see it. And when you see it you will not be amazed at how petty they are. You will realise how sad it must be that they see your worth, and how they try to diminish it because your worth is golden. They will never succeed. 

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