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Guidance for ourselves through what we say to others | Emotional Intelligence Developer

Besides the many ways in which guidance can come through when we are receptive (just listening and watching what the universe is showing us), guidance for ourselves can also come from what we are telling others. I noticed this back in 2016/17 and mentioned briefly here that advice to others can be advice for myself.
I often found that when I gave others suggestions about what I guessed would be helpful in their situation, that was the very thing I needed to tell myself in the next difficult situation.

This sounds like an amazing thing. But when I think about the fact that we are consciousness and that our beliefs, thoughts, and emotions determine what will show up in our personal bubble of consciousness, then it is not that strange. We simply attract mirrors of ourselves.

I guess that is the background of the Bible quote “Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but don’t consider the beam that is in your own eye?” (Matthew 7:3)

Yeah, well, it is so much easier to see the speck in our brother’s eye when we are detached and when our own ego defense mechanisms are asleep. We just need to remember that he can be a mirror for us and then go within and apply the insights to ourselves.

One guy who acted a bit like a spiritual teacher for me actually used this method as a teaching tool. He would talk to me and ask for advice about something. And I would happily and unsuspectingly engage in the conversation and suggest solutions which popped into my head. But then he would take an unexpected turn in the conversation and ask, “And why don’t you do that in your own situation?”

To profit from that type of guidance it is helpful to (A) pay attention and notice what it is we are telling others and (B) be aware that the guidance that we give to others can be for ourselves.

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For more information about divine guidance, you can download my workshop script (pdf) here: https://karinfinger.files.wordpress.com/2017/04/divine_guidance_workshop_script.pdf

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Author: Karin Finger

Source: https://karinfinger.wordpress.com/2021/12/30/guidance-for-ourselves-through-what-we-say-to-others/

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I learned about the power of inner peace and live in a new navigation mode where divine guidance shows up in many different ways.
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