Confuse them with your silence. It seems most times the problem we have with ourselves as humans is the is the problem of saying what is not yet ready to be put forth. We all seem to have this problem and most times, there are countless reasons why we do this to make people know that we are somebody who also has his own worth.
We try to make ourselves look big, try to talk others down and sometimes gain some respect aggressively,some like godlike reverence to ourselves. We are ready to say everything that can be said to have a stand on a position that is of worth and make per see us as important too.
And in the process, we say more than we actually should. Have you ever thought of the importance of silence? Have you ever thought of the reason why you have been given two lips and a brain to think? The main reason is for you to know by reasoning the right time to talk and the right time to not to. To be able to envisage when our words are needed to be heard, or when we are to be silent. Even when the situation and circumstances around us seemingly want us to speak out.
Life can be a bit complicated and demanding, it can throw you off balance and give you no reason to be illogical. However, since you have no control over many situations, you do have control over your own life. Look at yourself more than you look and meditate on others. Saying too much is providing an arsenal for you to get hurt with your words.
Being mysterious on the other hand, make people go the extra mile to be your friend. You don’t want to give them any ammunition to attack. Be still in your conversation and thoughts and keep the people around you guessing. Keep them wondering and looking over their shoulder for you.
They will yell at you if you do nothing,you say nothing, they will come calling on you when you do not want. Stay calm, say nothing. You aren’t doing them a favor, you are doing yourself a a favor. Hearing nothing from you, will give them much to think about when they want to approach you. You become ‘that guy’ or ‘that girl’ that make them feel unsure of themselves.
Your silence disrupts their confidence. It breaks their flow of thought regarding you. They just don’t know how to get to you anymore. You don’t give them any means or reason to. Its like a man who goes to a party with his friends and doesn’t dance. No one is going to laugh at his dance moves. Why? Because he hasn’t danced. They will coming up with ways to define you just because you never provided them any.
Instead of you trying to give reasons as to why you better and why they are wrong, why not just keep quiet and steadily work towards your dream? Bearing in mind that you have a goal better than the circumstances around you. We have heard the popular expressions :”silence is the best response to a fool”. The people around you do necessary need to be proven as fools because the whole essence of going down your particular path is for you own sake.
Why don’t you keep the confused by silence. Keep them entirely thinking about you while you stay focused on your goals. Nobody is you and that’s what makes you difference.
The moment you start bearing in mind, nobody knows anything about you is the moment you begin to understand that talking to convince people about who you are doesn’t really work. You don’t need to tell them who you are, let them find out. Don’t give them exactly what they need to say about you. Let them play the guessing game.
You do not necessarily need to respond to anything they say if they intend to draw out some negative reaction from you. Just leave them in silence and let your actions do the talking. Smile on and confuse them with your choice of saying nothing. All you required to do is listen, listen and let them seek your voice. Let them find it hard to figure you out. What’s more fun and giving people virtually nothing revealing about you while you live your life to the fullest.
