Tag: abused
Narcissistic Families Are Very Similar To Cults
Have you ever considered the similarities of cults & narcissistic families? There are quite a few similarities… -Leaders demand unquestioning, blind devotion, no matter what.-Leaders demand how those under them should act, think & feel.-The leader is always right, period.-Questioning leaders is discouraged, & often severely punished.-Isolation is extremely important. Relationships with those not in…
Why Some People Hate & Abuse Victims Of Narcissistic Abuse
Recently I was scrolling through my journal. I came across an entry I made in February, 2020 regarding something I learned about one of my cousins immediately after I joined Instagram. I immediately deleted Instagram, I think even before writing this journal entry. To get why I found this disturbing enough to delete that account…
The Reality Of Triggers
Feeling triggered has become more or less a joke in society today. If someone is at all offended, they are often accused of being triggered & mocked for it. This has diluted the serious nature of valid triggers. Triggers are common after trauma. Something happens that reminds a person of past trauma which triggers their…
You Deserve Compassion & Kindness!
Once someone has been abused, often they quietly & obliviously develop the misguided belief that they are unworthy of compassion & kindness. Most likely this comes from their abusers constantly telling them that they are a burden, they’re stupid, do nothing but cause problems & other things that instill a deep root of toxic shame…
Some Inspiration For Abuse Victims
I recently caught a show on the Oxygen network about the Cleveland strangler, Anthony Sowell. I believe the show was called, “Snapped Notorious: The Cleveland Strangler.” If you don’t know him, he was a serial rapist & murderer in whose Cleveland, Ohio home the bodies of 11 women were found. I found the show fascinating. …
How To Stop Being A People Pleaser
While most people have a desire to please other people naturally, no one is born a dysfunctional people pleaser. Crossing into being dysfunctional means that pleasing other people reins supreme in your life, even above pleasing yourself & taking care of yourself. It results in toxic relationships with abusive people who take advantage of you. …
Nostalgia After Trauma
The definition of nostalgia is longing for the past, in particular a time that is associated with good memories. People who have experienced trauma may have a predilection for having an appreciation for nostalgia more than the average person. When a person experiences trauma, such as growing up with abusive parents, often times as adults,…