Tag: abusive
Why Some People Hate Victims Of Narcissistic Abuse
Recently I was scrolling through my journal. I came across an entry I made in February, 2020 regarding something I learned about one of my cousins. Immediately after I joined Instagram, she began following me. I immediately deleted Instagram, I think even before writing this journal entry. To get why I found this disturbing enough…
Narcissistic Families Are Very Similar To Cults
Have you ever considered the similarities of cults & narcissistic families? There are quite a few similarities… -Leaders demand unquestioning, blind devotion, no matter what.-Leaders demand how those under them should act, think & feel.-The leader is always right, period.-Questioning leaders is discouraged, & often severely punished.-Isolation is extremely important. Relationships with those not in…
Never, Ever Underestimate Narcissists Or Flying Monkeys!
April 25, 2019 was the day I buried my mother. I decided not to have a funeral because those she was closest to were elderly, ill &/or lived too far away to attend her funeral. The day of her burial, I knew I didn’t have to be there, so I was unsure if I would…
Growing Up With An Emotionally Incestuous/Enmeshed/Parentalizing Parent & How It Makes Other People’s Needs Feel Like A Burden
Growing up with a parent who treats you more as their romantic partner rather than their child is extremely traumatic. It is referred to as emotional incest, enmeshment, covert incest, parentalizing & parentification, & it’s a form of sexual abuse whether or not sexual contact is a part of this abuse. It creates a LOT…
The Reality Of Triggers
Feeling triggered has become more or less a joke in society today. If someone is at all offended, they are often accused of being triggered & mocked for it. This has diluted the serious nature of valid triggers. Triggers are common after trauma. Something happens that reminds a person of past trauma which triggers their…
You Deserve Compassion & Kindness!
Once someone has been abused, often they quietly & obliviously develop the misguided belief that they are unworthy of compassion & kindness. Most likely this comes from their abusers constantly telling them that they are a burden, they’re stupid, do nothing but cause problems & other things that instill a deep root of toxic shame…
How To Stop Being A People Pleaser
While most people have a desire to please other people naturally, no one is born a dysfunctional people pleaser. Crossing into being dysfunctional means that pleasing other people reins supreme in your life, even above pleasing yourself & taking care of yourself. It results in toxic relationships with abusive people who take advantage of you. …