Fighting can be nice when you win the fight. It can also be painful when you get a chance to replay what you did to the other person which can cause stress in your life. Don’t be a bully. Don’t overpower your loved ones.

What does it mean to hurt someone?

Hopementalhealth.com says, “What to do when you hurt someone you love? When feeling guilty after hurting someone, apologize immediately and unconditionally without trying to justify your actions. Acknowledging that the person has a right to be offended by your inappropriate action will make it easier for them to forgive you.”

People who teach forgiveness share similar views on how to deal with this issue after the fact. But how do you avoid hurting someone in the first place? This is very important.

How to avoid hurting someone you love

Before your actions lead to a fight. Be at peace with yourself. Learn to manage your anger. Learn to be kind. Don’t look for fights, no matter what you’re going through don’t take it out on unsuspecting people; people who fall victim to your anger by being the next person you meet.

What goes on before you interact with another person is not their fault. Don’t carry your baggage everywhere. I’m not saying hide it. I’m not saying if you’re being abused to keep it quiet… No! I’m saying don’t fight with people because you could not fight with the person who caused the baggage to be there.

How hurting and healing can take place one after the other

Conflict resolution matters. If you have a problem with someone deal with it. If it requires space, give yourself some space. If it requires more action please get help for it. But don’t fight everyone because of another person’s actions against you. When you learn how to manage your anger it helps control your emotions.

What you go through before your next appointment should not influence your next appointment in a negative way. It can teach you! It can teach you how not to react in a certain way which can lead to conflict. It can help you understand your limits of anxiety and discomfort, and it can help you deflect it.

People will trigger you unknowingly. Remember that coincidence is merely a coincidence. He or she may say or mimic the person you were fighting with and it brings back hurtful emotions. But coincidence is merely a coincidence. Don’t put on your boxing gloves again… because it may not be an intentional jab against you.

Remember, before your actions lead to a fight. Be at peace with yourself. Learn to manage your anger. Learn to be kind. Don’t look for fights no matter what you’re going through don’t take it out on unsuspecting people.

Conclusion

You don’t have to fight. It will not achieve good results. When you control your emotions your peace runs smoothly regardless of turmoil around you. You’re able remain calm and focused which is key.

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