- Know about the importance of inner peace
Inner peace is not just another emotional state, but it is our real being. It is the place of power. Being there is like having a magic wand.
Inner peace is the place from which knowing comes. Knowing how to act appropriately in a given situation.
- Desire peace
As long as it feels good to succumb to anger, the desire for peace is not strong enough. But life will take care of this. Eventually, we will all have suffered enough, and then inner peace will become the highest priority.
- Clear the clutter and simplify your life
Too much stuff, too many items on the to-do list, and too many responsibilities can feel overwhelming. A friend asked me how I can stay relatively relaxed. I replied that part of it is that I have a low maintenance life-style. I just don’t do a lot of things that women and mothers are supposed to do in our society. Of course, that raises some eyebrows every now and then. But, inner peace is more important to me than fulfilling norms of the society.
- Get enough sleep, exercise, walk in nature, breathe consciously
- Keep a journal
Write down anything that is bothering you just to get it out of your system. Journaling has multiple benefits. Like keeping track of events and giving us the ability to see the connecting thread later. And sometimes my angry inner rant would turn into channeled writing. So journaling can give us access to our higher aspect.
My favorite method is turning the focus of attention 180 degrees backwards so that awareness looks at itself. No counting of breaths, no special posture, no visualization techniques. Can be done during sleepless nights lying in bed or during routine tasks like peeling carrots for dinner.
(This method comes from the Dzogchen tradition, but the easiest explanation is here in this 4 min video on http://www.justonelook.org)
If shit hits the fan, my favorite method is A Course in Miracles (ACIM) style forgiveness.
In case you get angry about a situation, turn within and ask for inner guidance. How can I see this differently?
If I don’t hear any answer, I run through the following checklist:
-) I don’t need to get upset because the me which is hurt is not the real me ( – like it would be stupid to get upset about losing in a board game of Parcheesi because we are not the little plastic figure on the cardboard). We are not the persona, but the consciousness beyond.
-) I don’t need to get upset because the thought which leads to being upset is not true ( turn the thought around with The Work by Byron Katie)
-) I don’t need to get upset because there is something good even in this seemingly bad situation ( – maybe the disturbing event or person is meant to mirror me in order to show me something? Maybe it is a reminder of lost peace? Or it has a metaphoric meaning?)
-) I don’t need to get upset because I have created the upsetting event myself in the first place (via the power of my creative consciousness).
-) I don’t need to get upset because I have planned this challenge before my incarnation and it serves the purpose that I shall remember who I am in truth. (See the great books Your Soul’s Plan and Your Soul’s Gift by Robert Schwartz. I was surprised to find out why someone might plan to experience alcoholism for decades. I highly recommend these books in case you struggle with some major issue which makes you upset for several years.)
- Stop the thought spiral about past and future
How to stop anger and regret about the past and worries about the future? Options are ACIM style forgiveness, meditation, or focussing the mind on the present or on some task (like mantras or a flow activity).
- Give up control
Being a mother has taught me that I have no control over my children. I have no access to the switch in their head when it comes to whether they learn or whether they clean their room. I can’t turn a tulip into a rose and vice versa. I can only give them water and fertile soil. It’s useless to struggle and then beat myself up about my inability to control them.
- Wake up
See that the separate personal self is an illusion in the first place.
We are consciousness. Before birth, in the body, and after death, we are consciousness. There is always the ‘I Am’ with content. We are the ‘I Am’ with all its content: noise colors lights shadows sensations thoughts emotions (which are physical sensations in the body) memories (which are thoughts). But by putting the label on our body as ‘me’ and on the other person and the wall over there as ‘not me’, we have separated ourselves with the consequence of fear and guilt. The way back home is seeing through the illusion of these labels. ‘I’ is just a label for this particular body-mind appearing in consciousness and it is not more real than Santa Claus. (Book recommendation: Gateless Gatecrashers by I. Cuinaite and E. Nezhinsky)
Author: Karin Finger
This post was originally published here: https://karinfinger.wordpress.com/2015/05/05/10-ways-to-inner-peace/
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